QOTW!

(Question Of The Week)

For several weeks now, I've been thinking about the concept of forgiveness.  Im definitely not the type of person who holds grudges, intentionally at least. But when you forgive someone, I feel like its not necessary to keep them around.  My mom has been tellling me otherwise. Ive been arguing with her recently to prove my point .  

Allow me to explain:  Lets jus say I have known friend A for just a little over a year. Have treated him/her like a sibling and was always there for everything they needed.  They came to me only when they needed to get things done, but i was ok with that. Until one day,they just crossed the line. Starting to say things about me and taking advantage of how nice my parents are with "them".One thing that I cannot stand, is when someone is "FAKE", we all have come across close friends even who turn out to be something they never were.   And friend  A got into arguments with my parents because of things other people said about them. Then the ugliness came out. Friend A started being rude, saying hurtful things about me, about my life, the way I am, when they know not even 1/4 of my personality. blah..anywho, long story short, they realized what they had said and done and wanted to apologize to me about it.  I accepted the apology, with some hesitation in the beginning due to the anger I had inside. (anger for just that moment, doesnt mean I would or did lose sleep over what they had said).  

I fully forgave that person, but am I wrong to not want to bump into them again? to have an, even short convo with them?  IDK. I dont feel that its necessary to keep them around because it will just cause me to feel negativity  towards them unintentionally. 

The thing im fussing over, is the fact that my mom is the type of person who will forgive and forget and will be the same with that person, even after continuously being disappointed by them. She is pushing that on me and telling me that its ok to meet that person and be "normal" with them just because they asked for forgiveness.  I honestly feel at peace once I forgive them and dont feel like its necessary to keep them around. It reminds me of a quote I once read, "Always forgive, but never forget their names". ONLY to the extent where ur only protecting urself from getting hurt again. Not  to the point where u have a payback list of names lol . What do you guys think?

Do you feel like its necessary to forgive and really forget? Or forgive and turn the other way, and live ur life?